When life is falling apart…and it will; it does, sometimes daily; sometimes less often, depending on your own Hero’s journey….We all try desperately to hold it together with something. Anything. And, typically, we try to do this alone because we think we have to. (Psssst….Heroes…you don’t, but more on that later…)
Some of us opt for a safety pin to hold it all together: the slightly painful, but typically ‘safer’ way.
Some of us choose a paperclip: multiple sizes, pain free, holds things of varying thicknesses together well; however, it is temporary and can get bent out of shape rather easily.
How about tape? Tape, depending on the type, can either bind amazingly well (such as duct tape or gorilla tape), or can only serve as a very temporary solution, often breaking when needed the most. In the end, it often leaves a sticky, unwanted residue behind as a memory preferred to be forgotten.
So then there are staples. Well, staples can hold many of life’s materials, both inside and out, together. Yet, again, as with a safety pin, this option brings pain without the ‘safety net’ and often gets ripped out with the jaws of life.
These options are singular; they only require you, the one falling apart, to affix them without dependence on anyone else. In fact, they can even serve as a blockade of sorts, though small, pushing others away. This can be good, sometimes. Independence and self-sufficient problem-solving are important skills…most of the time.
However, when we are falling apart, and I mean REALLY falling to pieces, opting for our own solution can be more painful (safety pins and staples) or temporary (paperclips and tape), or leave us in much stickier shape than when we were whole (tape).
My choice, my Heroes? A rubber band and a little apoxy. When life is flung into more pieces than a 1,000 piece 3D puzzle, we need not to push AWAY. We need to PULL IN. We need to gather in support of those who are falling; to encircle them, BANDED together…breathing life back into the pieces so we can properly secure them into the place they belong with a bit of extra-strength apoxy.
A rubber band…one large enough to do the job…will require asking someone else for help. And, my Heroes, when we are at our lowest, when the pieces of our lives seem to be flung to the farthest edges of the earth and beyond, we need to PULL IN an allow ourselves to be vulnerable, even just a little, rather than push away and hide our brokenness.
PULL IN and allow yourself to be loved. PULL IN and let the HEROES around you do what they were made to do: support, love, BE THERE in whatever way you need them.
My Heroes, next time you see a piece, pick it up ever-so-gingerly, hold onto it tightly until you find the others, or find others who’ve also stopped to pick up a piece, too. Carry with you, my Heroes, a band, so that you can, at any time, help BAND someone in need together…with love. With care. With strength. With that extra breath we might need.
PULL IN. BAND together. Let us Heroes help you feel whole, again.
Heroes, share in the comments below what YOU currently use to ‘hold your pieces together.’ We want to know. Perhaps you have a new, more powerful implement we can learn from? Or perhaps you have a simple one that may or may not be working. Either way. We want to know.
Remember, Heroes, that anyone who comments on any post in January will be entered into a raffle. I will pull a name once we reach 200 Hero Readers by February 1st (we’re getting close! 165!).
So please share this post. Help us grow our HEROES. Everyone needs to know their own Heroes.
Come and get a rubber band anytime, my Heroes.
Piecing it all together, slowly,
Lora Ackermann
Rubber Band Hero Trainer
Some of us opt for a safety pin to hold it all together: the slightly painful, but typically ‘safer’ way.
Some of us choose a paperclip: multiple sizes, pain free, holds things of varying thicknesses together well; however, it is temporary and can get bent out of shape rather easily.
How about tape? Tape, depending on the type, can either bind amazingly well (such as duct tape or gorilla tape), or can only serve as a very temporary solution, often breaking when needed the most. In the end, it often leaves a sticky, unwanted residue behind as a memory preferred to be forgotten.
So then there are staples. Well, staples can hold many of life’s materials, both inside and out, together. Yet, again, as with a safety pin, this option brings pain without the ‘safety net’ and often gets ripped out with the jaws of life.
These options are singular; they only require you, the one falling apart, to affix them without dependence on anyone else. In fact, they can even serve as a blockade of sorts, though small, pushing others away. This can be good, sometimes. Independence and self-sufficient problem-solving are important skills…most of the time.
However, when we are falling apart, and I mean REALLY falling to pieces, opting for our own solution can be more painful (safety pins and staples) or temporary (paperclips and tape), or leave us in much stickier shape than when we were whole (tape).
My choice, my Heroes? A rubber band and a little apoxy. When life is flung into more pieces than a 1,000 piece 3D puzzle, we need not to push AWAY. We need to PULL IN. We need to gather in support of those who are falling; to encircle them, BANDED together…breathing life back into the pieces so we can properly secure them into the place they belong with a bit of extra-strength apoxy.
A rubber band…one large enough to do the job…will require asking someone else for help. And, my Heroes, when we are at our lowest, when the pieces of our lives seem to be flung to the farthest edges of the earth and beyond, we need to PULL IN an allow ourselves to be vulnerable, even just a little, rather than push away and hide our brokenness.
PULL IN and allow yourself to be loved. PULL IN and let the HEROES around you do what they were made to do: support, love, BE THERE in whatever way you need them.
My Heroes, next time you see a piece, pick it up ever-so-gingerly, hold onto it tightly until you find the others, or find others who’ve also stopped to pick up a piece, too. Carry with you, my Heroes, a band, so that you can, at any time, help BAND someone in need together…with love. With care. With strength. With that extra breath we might need.
PULL IN. BAND together. Let us Heroes help you feel whole, again.
Heroes, share in the comments below what YOU currently use to ‘hold your pieces together.’ We want to know. Perhaps you have a new, more powerful implement we can learn from? Or perhaps you have a simple one that may or may not be working. Either way. We want to know.
Remember, Heroes, that anyone who comments on any post in January will be entered into a raffle. I will pull a name once we reach 200 Hero Readers by February 1st (we’re getting close! 165!).
So please share this post. Help us grow our HEROES. Everyone needs to know their own Heroes.
Come and get a rubber band anytime, my Heroes.
Piecing it all together, slowly,
Lora Ackermann
Rubber Band Hero Trainer