My Heroes, have you ever felt STUCK? Are you feeling stuck right now? There are many kinds of ‘stuck:’ between a rock and a hard place; like gum to a shoe; stuck in the middle of……(fill in the blank); stuck financially, spiritually, emotionally, physically; stuck in a relationship (romantic, professional, friendship); or even stuck as in floating without a clear vision or direction. There are more ways to be stuck and there are many degrees of ‘stuckness,’ some of which may feel like the world’s most powerful cement-based-superglue.
For now, my Heroes, I’m talking about the kind of stuck you feel when you have the blessing of TOO many options; TOO many possible directions your life can go. Perhaps you’ve just moved, or lost your job, or need to make a change and you are presented with options…in fact, with so many options it stops you rather than motivates you.
Anyone with me? Some call this type of ‘stuck’ standing at a crossroads in your life. I just call it being stuck.
Don’t get me wrong, Heroes. This isn’t a BAD thing. Not the kind I’m talking about, at least. It’s a good thing to have options, right? Sure! Of course. Better than NOT having any options. But that’s the same as saying, upon stepping into a nest of biting fire ants, “Well, at least they aren’t wasps.” Ouch. Just got bit. Twice. Sure, I’ll give you that…at least we HAVE options. My Heroes, we should ALWAYS be grateful for options.
Newsflash: Options don’t get you UN-STUCK! YOU, with help, get you UN-STUCK.
Solution: Ask.
That’s right, my Heroes, ask. There’s an old commentary that if you see a turtle on a fencepost, you know it didn’t get there by itself. Or, as the quotation in the photo says, “No bird soars too high if he soars with his own wings.” ~William Blake
When we are stuck, my Heroes, asking for the help of another Hero friend, mentor, parent, coach, family member, or possibly someone completely out of your circle, but someone who can REALLY offer guidance in directing your multi-optioned-life, WILL begin to UN-stick you.
So often we DON’T ask. We learned somewhere in life that to ask for help means we are weak, incapable, less-than, ill-equipped, not smart enough, dependent, needy, the list goes on. We learn this at a pretty young age, too. When I taught Kindergarten many moons ago, I was surprised to find that my students had already learned this. They wouldn’t ask for help when they needed it. They learned, somewhere, that to ask meant you weren’t smart enough to figure it out on your own.
Cut that crap out right now. I’m serious, my Heroes. That’s what it is. Pure stupidity to think that asking for help when you need it means ANY of these things (or anything similar).
To my students I would say, “The smartest people know when and how to ask the questions, to ask for help.” Granted I had to repeat it about 100 times before it STARTED to sink in (no matter the age of my students…).
So I’m saying to you, my Heroes, the most successful (in whatever way you define that word) people know when and how to ask the questions, and of whom.
Asking for help requires admitting to yourself that you NEED someone else in the first place. Needing someone to help guide you out of STUCKness DOES NOT take away from your strength or independence. It allows another person to do something GOOD for you and it opens doors, ideas, solutions, direction, vision you may NEVER think of on your own. It only ADDS to your strength.
So, my Heroes, this week, I invite you to ASK. Determine what STUCKness you’d like to move through. Determine the right person to help you. (This may take some time and that’s okay…You’re STUCK, remember?) If you’re not sure what to ask, just start sharing about your STUCKness and the questions will come to you. See what happens. How it feels.
I am doing this right with you, my Heroes. Process of UN-sticking has already begun.
Share with us, in the comments, my Heroes, what type of STUCK you are experiencing. WE can ALL learn from one another’s STUCKness.
Helping you UN-Stick, one question at a time,
Lora Ackermann
UN-Sticking Hero Trainer
For now, my Heroes, I’m talking about the kind of stuck you feel when you have the blessing of TOO many options; TOO many possible directions your life can go. Perhaps you’ve just moved, or lost your job, or need to make a change and you are presented with options…in fact, with so many options it stops you rather than motivates you.
Anyone with me? Some call this type of ‘stuck’ standing at a crossroads in your life. I just call it being stuck.
Don’t get me wrong, Heroes. This isn’t a BAD thing. Not the kind I’m talking about, at least. It’s a good thing to have options, right? Sure! Of course. Better than NOT having any options. But that’s the same as saying, upon stepping into a nest of biting fire ants, “Well, at least they aren’t wasps.” Ouch. Just got bit. Twice. Sure, I’ll give you that…at least we HAVE options. My Heroes, we should ALWAYS be grateful for options.
Newsflash: Options don’t get you UN-STUCK! YOU, with help, get you UN-STUCK.
Solution: Ask.
That’s right, my Heroes, ask. There’s an old commentary that if you see a turtle on a fencepost, you know it didn’t get there by itself. Or, as the quotation in the photo says, “No bird soars too high if he soars with his own wings.” ~William Blake
When we are stuck, my Heroes, asking for the help of another Hero friend, mentor, parent, coach, family member, or possibly someone completely out of your circle, but someone who can REALLY offer guidance in directing your multi-optioned-life, WILL begin to UN-stick you.
So often we DON’T ask. We learned somewhere in life that to ask for help means we are weak, incapable, less-than, ill-equipped, not smart enough, dependent, needy, the list goes on. We learn this at a pretty young age, too. When I taught Kindergarten many moons ago, I was surprised to find that my students had already learned this. They wouldn’t ask for help when they needed it. They learned, somewhere, that to ask meant you weren’t smart enough to figure it out on your own.
Cut that crap out right now. I’m serious, my Heroes. That’s what it is. Pure stupidity to think that asking for help when you need it means ANY of these things (or anything similar).
To my students I would say, “The smartest people know when and how to ask the questions, to ask for help.” Granted I had to repeat it about 100 times before it STARTED to sink in (no matter the age of my students…).
So I’m saying to you, my Heroes, the most successful (in whatever way you define that word) people know when and how to ask the questions, and of whom.
Asking for help requires admitting to yourself that you NEED someone else in the first place. Needing someone to help guide you out of STUCKness DOES NOT take away from your strength or independence. It allows another person to do something GOOD for you and it opens doors, ideas, solutions, direction, vision you may NEVER think of on your own. It only ADDS to your strength.
So, my Heroes, this week, I invite you to ASK. Determine what STUCKness you’d like to move through. Determine the right person to help you. (This may take some time and that’s okay…You’re STUCK, remember?) If you’re not sure what to ask, just start sharing about your STUCKness and the questions will come to you. See what happens. How it feels.
I am doing this right with you, my Heroes. Process of UN-sticking has already begun.
Share with us, in the comments, my Heroes, what type of STUCK you are experiencing. WE can ALL learn from one another’s STUCKness.
Helping you UN-Stick, one question at a time,
Lora Ackermann
UN-Sticking Hero Trainer